Am I Lazy or is this normal?

Lately I feel so awful, I can't even pull myself out of bed, except when I feel like I have to eat something for the baby. I have been feeling a little down about it, especially since my husband is off working all day to support our new family and I just lay in bed feeling like its the end of the world. I try to keep my mind of it, but its nearly impossible, when all I can think about is BABY and what kind of mother I am going to be. It is also difficult because I have InLaws, who I love, but who treat me like I am just being lazy and that its all in my head...this coming from a woman who was NEVER sick during pregnancy, and a man who has no idea what its like to grow another human being inside his body. My husband still has a little of his parents mindset, but luckily he is willing to listen to me, and will read up on pregnancy stuff along with me.

I was watching Dr. Phil last night about couple quarrels, I felt really grateful for the husband I have. I know he doesn't necessarily like that I am not doing much during my day, but he still comes home and asks me what I need and makes sure I am taking my pills. He checks up on me a lot, and I am thankful I don't have to do this alone, as many women out there do.

I also love the internet! I was looking up if other women felt the same as I do about feeling guilty about staying in bed during pregnancy and I found a TON of comments by women who feel the same. I especially loved reading this, which was in response to a women feeling exactly how I feel.

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You are NOT a bad mom!!

You are not lazy. You are not "doing damage" to your baby.

Extreme tiredness, nausea, and lack of appetite are all fairly normal parts of early pregnancy.

You write: physically, I feel so horrible and yet you also say you're lazy. Lets get this straight once and for all: You are not being lazy. Your body is telling you something, you need to listen to it. Your body is telling you what you need to do: you need to rest. Do what your body tells you: rest. Start off by taking two or three days totaly off and do nothing by sleep and relax.

Don't forget: not only are you building a whole new person, but you're also growing an extra organ to feed that person. That's hard work. Its no wonder your body is tired. Listen to your body. It knows what its doing."


After reading this I knew I wasn't the only one who was feeling this way. Many women go through hard pregnancies. I will still push myself to try and feel better so I can accomplish something around the house that needs to get done, but at the end of the day, I am building a person. A heart, lungs, a brain....and that's pretty amazing.

I love you baby! Even though you do look like an alien right now. ;)

9 Weeks Pregnant